Dear Reader!,
If you are neurodivergent, do you have "safe foods?" These are generally 6-10 food staples that you will eat and nothing else generally is good enough? The items may change throughout time but there are always only a handful.
I've always been a "picky eater" but because people in my house growing up were MORE picky - it was just a thing, no one made a big deal of it. However, as I grew up I realized that this wasn't quite normal. But it was one of those things that I just shrugged off. I had no idea it was part of my neurodivergence until a few years ago.
Right now my "safe food" looks a bit like this:
- Rice Crispies - The cereal will be one cereal for months, and then switch to something else.
- Jiff Peanut Butter - eaten way too many times a day
- Saltine Crackers
- White bread, bagels, or english muffins
- Eggs
- Lays Potato Chips - again the snack will be the same for months and then change
- Chicken - grilled, baked, fried - just not anything fancy or with any creamy stuff.
- Deli Turkey - this switches off to ham some months
- Pulled Pork - there's usually a special dinner that's THE dinner for a while - right now it's pulled pork and I'm already mourning when that's over because YUM
That's literally what my entire diet at the moment consists of. Oh if I go out to eat I might get something different (but often not) - and sometimes my partner will offer something that sounds appealing that's NOT on the list - but it's mostly my safe foods.
Do you or your kiddos have safe foods?
New Blog: Why “Just Find Your People” Isn’t That Simple
Belonging, On Purpose
Here's a real chat moment we need to talk about. "Just find your people."
Sounds simple and is one of those phrases that people throw around like it's the magic answer. As if all you need to do is find the right people and everything clicks into place. You will then feel seen and supported. There won't be any more loneliness, awkwardness, or feeling like you are trying too hard.
And it's kinda right. And has the right intentions.
For ADHD, neurodivergent, and/or queer humans definitely need the right people, we do need connection and spaces where we feel like we belong.
But if you are like me, you hear that phrase and sometimes still feel a little pang in your chest instead of relief or joy?
You are not doing it wrong.
The reality is finding "your people" isn't just about showing up and magically clicking.
There's so much more going on underneath that we don't talk enough about. Let's chat about it.
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This Week's Quick Tip(s) Collaboration in 5 Minutes (Or Less)
Collaboration Can Be Done In Tiny Moments
🌻Start with Curiosity, Not Control. "What's making this difficult right now?" instead of jumping to orders and instructions.
🌻Shrink the Task Together - "what's the tiny first step we can take?"
🌻Shift from "you need to" to "let's do this together."
🌻Validate First, Then Problem-Solve - "this is really tough, huh?"
🌻Ask Them First - "What do you think would help now?"
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Gentle Reflection
Where are you getting stuck: starting, continuing, or finishing?
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What's Kat Up To?
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Free Community Of Belonging - Unfitting - For humans done trying to fit in.
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Before I go, I thought I'd let you know about two webinars coming up given by Additude Magazine that you might be interested in.
FREE WEBINAR ON APRIL 28 Autism in Midlife & Beyond
Why more people are being diagnosed with autism as adults, and what research tells us about aging as an autistic person.
FREE WEBINAR ON MAY 6 ADHD and Perimenopause
Understand how declining estrogen affects ADHD, mood, cognition, & more + how to ease perimenopause symptoms.
I hope you have a great day, my friend. And remember - you are doing an amazing job! Just being you.
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