Quick Tips for ADHD Conversations

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Somehow we're already a week into October. I'm pretty sure September was about 11 minutes long, but here we are!

I hope your month is off to a good start, and if it isn't, there's still plenty of time to turn things around.

Or at least find some good snacks.

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This Week's ADHD Deep Dive - A gentle deep dive into something that shapes our real, beautifully wired lives.

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Why I Didn't Answer Your Text (And Why It's Probably Not About You)

I saw your text.

I think. Most likely.

There’s also a good chance that I read it, was in the middle of something, decided I’d respond later, and then my brain decided I already answered.

Welcome to texting with some of your ADHD friends. Texting is supposed to make communication easier, and sometimes it does, but it also comes with a surprising number of executive functioning demands.

We have to notice the message, decide if we can answer it right then, figure out what to say, type the response, and hit send. And with crappy working memory, if any part of that process gets interrupted (it almost always does)

Your text may have just fallen into the same mystery land currently holding my keys, my left sneaker, whatever I walked into the room to get, and at least three very important pieces of paperwork.

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This Week's Tips: Things to Say When Someone Minimizes Your ADHD

When they say: “Everyone struggles with that.”
Try: “Absolutely. Everyone has some struggle with some executive functions. The difference is how many more challenges we have and how those challenges impact our daily lives.
When they say: “Everyone gets distracted.”
Try: “They do. ADHD isn’t about never being able to focus—it’s about having difficulty regulating where and when my attention goes.”
When they say: “You just need to try harder.”
Try: “Trying harder isn’t always the issue. I usually need a different strategy, not more pressure.”
When they say: “But you can focus on things you like.”
Try: “Yep. ADHD attention is often driven by things like interest, urgency, novelty, or challenge—not simply by what I’ve decided is important.”
When they say: “You’re using ADHD as an excuse.”
Try: “Understanding why something is difficult helps me figure out what support or strategy I need. That’s not the same as avoiding responsibility.”
When you need a firmer boundary:
Try: “When you minimize my ADHD, I feel dismissed rather than supported. I’m happy to talk about what helps me, but I’m not willing to argue about whether my struggles are real.”